By Alison Vaughn

Are you stagnating at the same point in life despite having a clear idea of where you want to be? Do you have bad habits that you really want to get rid of but you’re unable to? If your answer to these questions is yes, you’re associating yourself with the wrong people. It’s about time you changed your circle of friends.

One thing you’ll notice about successful people is that they choose who to hang out with wisely.  They don’t associate themselves with just anyone. They are quite choosy. It’s widely known that humans are drawn to people who are like-minded. So if you want to win in life, you must first develop a winning mindset then surround yourself with people who want to win as well. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people gives you a support system to help you stay on task. With like-minded people, you can be your authentic self without being judged. It also allows you to stay away from dream killers.

There are many people out there with the desire to surround themselves with like-minded people but they don’t know where to start. Here are sure ways to surround yourself with people who make you better.

Let go of negative relationships

Do you want to start a business but your friends tell you it’s impossible to start one? Are you surrounded by naysayers who believe certain things cannot be done? Those are the people you should stay away from so that you give yourself a chance to attract people with positive vibes. It could be your colleagues at work, close friends, or even family members. Do not be afraid to let go. In fact, you’ll be doing yourself more good than harm. It’s easy to identify negative people around you. Pay close attention to how you feel after discussing ideas with them. If you’re surrounded by negative people, you’ll feel discouraged every time you bring up the idea of taking on new challenges. It can be uncomfortable to let go especially if you’ve been close for many years, but it’s well worth it.

Get around people who are smarter than you

There will always be someone smarter than you in some way. If you look around you and you think you are the smartest one, it’s time you changed your circle. If you want to build a successful business, for example, you need to find someone who’s already running a successful business. They can help you forge relationships with key contacts.

Get out of your comfort zone

The comfort zone is the killer of big dreams. It’s easy to surround yourself with people who do not challenge you. Get out of your comfort zone by attending seminars, and workshops where you can meet people who are already ahead of you. Do everything possible to spend time where they are. People who will push you out of your comfort zone. Surround yourself with people who share your ambitions and set yourself on the path to success.

Learn more on how to attract your tribe by grabbing a copy of Alison Vaughn’s book “Ms. Goal Digger: Success is Sexy”.

Alison Vaughn is founder of Detroit-based Jackets for Jobs, Inc., a nonprofit that provides career skills training and clothing to job seekers. Jackets for Jobs, Inc is recognized by ABC’s The View, NBC’s Today Show and NASDAQ  as a worthy organization to support. Vaughn is a sought after public speaker and community advocate. She is a Comcast Newsmaker, Goldman Sachs Scholar and honored as Crain’s Notable women in Non-Profits. She’s also been featured in Entrepreneur & Fortune Magazine.

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